O: Hey mom, let's be Toms.
We try a lot of things as parents. Much of the time, it just feels as though you are shouting into the void, with not even an echo coming back. Every now and then, however, you may get a glimpse that your thought, energy, and love are building up in that tiny brain, affecting those synapses, helping to form new connections.
Lay a foundation. Keep having conversations. Act with love. Maybe it's working.